I think I'm starting to lose my mind a little bit. It has come to my attention that another acquaintance that I have known for a while is married and is expecting. It seems like more and more people (close to my age) are getting married or is having babies.
A friend of mine who was advocating celibacy is now having a child out of wedlock. Every time I hang out with the dude, I try to be supportive as I can possibly be. I constantly think about the thought process that is going through his head. His life is OVER. That sounded harsh...let me rephrase. His personal life is over. His sole purpose now is to feed, care, and love his newborn to death. I know he'll be good as a father, it's just going to be at the expense of his personal life. He can no longer not have a care in the world. I worry about people who get hitched this early because the majority of those early marriages never last. I don't want to sound like a broken record when I say that when marriage comes along for me, I want to get it the right the first time. But when you have a kid, it's almost like your relationship with your partner turns into an obligation. I know I went on a tangent just now, but this is what's going on in my head.
It's funny, I know it's only a matter of time before all of us gets hitched. I was hanging out with some friends as usual and I came to a realization. When all of us gets married, these "get-together's" will be nonexistent. Does it have to be that way? Some people I talk to about this says that it's inevitable. I shouldn't run away from it, instead, I should embrace it.
Food for thought...
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Personal lives do not become extinct when you get married and/or have a child, your personal life just becomes altered. Now if you let all the social positive activities that you engaged in before the whole ordeal occurs then you will be one sad and depressed father/husband.
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